E. Way: “Who and how I hope to impact with my book

From time to time in this space, WestBow Press publishes articles written by our authors in which they share some aspect of their self-publishing journeys. The following are the words of E. Way, author of  “Coming Out of Cage.”
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When I served on the local school board, I met parents of all kinds. Usually the kinds that frequentedeway
school board meetings tended to be aggressive, demanding, self-righteous and pushy! I always felt sorry for their kids for having such Tiger Parents, until I realized that I was just like them!

I don’t think I would have ever come to see myself as a Tiger Mom had my children been always submissive and compliant. It was not until my daughter developed Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) soon after she got into college that I was compelled to face the problem about my parenting style. It was very difficult to see how I hurt my children when all I wanted was for them to be successful and happy in life.

Even though I agonized with denial, shame, guilt, anger and frustrations as I was going through the self-reflection and self-confrontation process at the time, I am thankful for the trial, because not only has it helped me come out of my own cage of fear, shame, insecurity and pride to develop a truly loving and healthy relationship with my children, it has also empowered me to support other parents in improving their relationships with their children. For this reason, I decided to write the book, Coming Out of Cage – Journey of a Tiger Mom.


The message in my book is actually very simple:

Yes, we want to love our children and help them attain happiness and success in life; but in order to do that, we need to be healthy as a person first so that we could love our children authentically and unconditionally. It is like putting oxygen masks on ourselves first before helping our children with this emergency medical equipment.

We need to make sure that we are healthy so that our love for our children would not be toxic to them. The following questions may help us see if our love is healthy:

  1. Do we love our children so that they will be “happy” and “successful”?
  2. Do we love our children when or if they are “happy” and “successful”?
  3. Is our love for our children conditioned upon their performances?
  4. Are we serving our children’s best interests or our own interests?
  5. Do we even love ourselves?
  6. Are there any unresolved issues in our past that keep us from loving ourselves?
  7. How can we love our children if we do not even love ourselves?
  8. How can we be freed from our past unresolved issues to love our children in a healthy and constructive way?

If to be healthy requires us to resolve our own past issues (i.e. hurts, pain, anger, abuses, addictions, brokenness, injustice, failures, fears, wrongdoings, rejections, abandonment, neglect…), then how do we do that?

  1. First, admit and accept the fact that we have unresolved issues to work out, and
  2. Turn ourselves to God who loves, forgives and heals through His Word and Spirit.
  3. Surround ourselves with people who are wise, safe and willing to hold us accountable.

E. WaySo, does it mean that once we become healthy as parents, our children will be happy and successful?

Well, just because we put on our own oxygen masks and help our children put on theirs, does not mean safety is guaranteed; but, the chances of survival is certainly much higher!

As a mother who is still slowly un-tigering herself, I am learning more and more about trusting in the Lord and enjoying my now adult children as they set their own goals, make their own choices, go at their own pace, and yes, even as they face their own struggles and take lessons from their own mistakes!

For parents who still have young children at home, I hope you will find my book helpful. Look at your children for who they are, not what they do or should do. Don’t treat them as extensions of yourselves or as fulfillment of your dreams, because you should try to do that for yourselves if that is what you want in life.

WestBow Press authors who’d like to share a 350-600 word experience related to the self-publishing of their books, are invited to do so by sending a message through our Facebook page at www.facebook.com/WestBowPress, by tweeting us @westbowpress, or by emailing kgray@ westbowpress.com.  We may not be able to use every story, but we will read and consider them. WestBow Press reserves the right to edit stories for content, grammar and punctuation accuracy; as well as for space.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


Matthew C. Seufer: Photographer Captures God’s Beauty

From time to time in this space, WestBow Press publishes articles written by our authors in which they share some aspect of their self-publishing journeys. The following are the words of Matthew C. Seufer author of “Windows From Heaven.” All photos provided by the author and appear on his blog http://windowsfromheaven.org/.  Click here to receive a free publishing guide and to receive more information on self-publishing your book with WestBow Press.

I have been an amateur photographer most of my life; the beauty in the world captures me. I hadbook image always been told my photographs were wonderful, and I knew I had a talent. Several years ago, my photographs began to change.

Suddenly, they no longer represented my skill they began to reflect the creator behind the beauty. How Blessed we are that God only need an open heart! He reached out and touch me. He drew me into a remarkable journey to touch others for Him.

The Hand Of God –May 08, 2011 What is written is truth!

The Hand Of God –May 08, 2011 What is written is truth!

I have spent the past several years on this very important and unique project. How could I have known that a walk around the block with my camera would find its way to so many people around the world–that snapshots from my lens would speak to hearts for God? How could I know how this path would change me?

I am a proud native of Williamstown, West Virginia, a beautiful small town along the banks of the Ohio River. I enjoy the simple things in life and making a positive difference to those along my path. God is pouring out his spirit in the year 2015. Are we paying attention? I am very blessed to be able to share 85 incredible color pictures that God is showing us through my photography.

The Lord has taken my passion for photographing the “simple” things in life, and is showing us all his message through my lens! God said “get this book published, I will do the rest.”

Each picture is dated as they were taken. These dates, are very important to certain people who will view the book. The e-book version is presented in the same quality as the original pics. I intentionally kept the e-book costs as low as possible, so it would be affordable to download onto tablets, iPads, iPhones, lab tops and other electronic devices. The e-book is an inspirational 96-page color picture book that the reader can take with them wherever they travel. What better way to show others God’s message!

This incredible book comforts those who are grieving over a lost friend or family member, sometimes

Spirit Of Jesus –December 29,2013 Look, he is coming with the clouds and every eye will see him,even those who pierced him; and all peoples on earth will mourn because of him. So shall it be! Amen. –Revelation 1:7

Spirit Of Jesus –December 29,2013 Look, he is coming with the clouds and every eye will see him,even those who pierced him; and all peoples on earth will mourn because of him. So shall it be! Amen. –Revelation 1:7

even a pet. A great gift, for any occasion. “Windows From Heave”n is changing peoples lives. Please share this book with others seeking God’s Kingdom. The soft cover version is a coffee table type book, that is perfect for doctor offices, hospitals, cancer centers, hospice, book stores, libraries and churches.

God is truly revealing his truths in these pictures.

Acts 2:17. Most will be stunned by what God is showing us. Enjoy and share! God is Alive and the Heavens are watching!

Yes It Is All True! It is TIME. God is pouring out His spirit using my talent as a photographer to reach those who seek his Kingdom. God doesn’t Photoshop!

Enjoy this unique newly published book with friends, family and co-workers.

WestBow Press authors who’d like to share a 350-600 word experience related to the self-publishing of their books, are invited to do so by sending a message through our Facebook page at www.facebook.com/WestBowPress, by tweeting us @westbowpress, or by emailing kgray@ westbowpress.com.  We may not be able to use every story, but we will read and consider them. WestBow Press reserves the right to edit stories for content, grammar and punctuation accuracy; as well as for space.


Pete Nikolai: How to do a Book Giveaway on Goodreads

Goodreads is a “social cataloging” site that has become a hub for connecting authors and readers. A popular marketing tool authors and publishers have employed in recent years are Goodreads Giveaways.

Pete Nikolai has nearly 25 years of experience in many facets of publishing.

Pete Nikolai has nearly 25 years of experience in many facets of publishing.

With more than 20 million monthly visitors, Goodreads — which was acquired by Amazon in 2013 — provides a valuable platform to allow unknown or lesser known authors to “level the playing field” when it comes to marketing.

Pete Nikolai, publisher of WestBow Press and director of publishing services for Harper Collins Christian Publishing, has been a part of marketing countless books throughout his two decades in publishing. In this entry to his “Publish Your Book” blog from December 16, 2014, Nikolai shares tips for successfully executing a Goodreads giveaway.

Pete Nikolai: “How to do a Book Giveaway on Goodreads >>

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Mary Alice Kenley: Lessons from Kenley Cove

From time to time in this space, WestBow Press publishes articles written by our authors in which they share some aspect of their self-publishing journeys. The following are the words of Mary Alice Kenley author of  “Lessons from the Porch at Kenley Cove.”
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Have you ever wanted to just sit on someone’s porch in a big old teak rocking chair, looking at a beautiful lake, and just pour out your heart?  Have you ever wanted someone who’s been around a while to listen and use personal experiences and lessons learned from years of Bible study to prayerfully guide you, so that when you left, your load was a little lighter?

That’s what happens almost every day on the huge back porch of our home in rural Alabama, which

photo credit: https://kenleycove.wordpress.com/about/

A retired DC lobbyist, Mary Alice Kenley spends peaceful days writing on her back porch in rural Alabama.

we’ve dubbed Kenley Cove.

In my career as a lobbyist, I traveled almost all the time—Montgomery, Birmingham, Atlanta and Washington, DC.  The days were long with l

ots of meetings, but the evenings were mostly quiet.  I’m not a lover of TV, so I worked on my Bible study and journals.  Because the actual act of writing is restful for me, I hand wrote journal after journal of reflections, revelations and ruminations.  As the reader can imagine, I filled many of the little spiral bound journals (no 8x10s for me—they had to be pretty) with my thoughts and discoveries.

After I retired, I went back to school to become a Christian marriage and family counselor.  The constant, though, was the thoughtful writing in the pretty little books.  One day, one of my sons was visiting and asked what the stack of books was.  Not wanting to be overly serious, I said, “There’s bound to be something in there that you can say over my body when I’m dead!”

Kenley coverHe picked one up and started reading.  It was his suggestion that I start posting on social media.  He’d heard me ranting about bad stuff on the internet, and reminded me that perhaps I could be a force for change, at least in my own little neighborhood of social media friends.  Being the dutiful and obedient mother I try to be, I thought I’d try it.  I am now in my third year of posting on a daily basis Monday through Friday, and I find many are ministered to.  (You can read them, if you like, on the Facebook page that bears the name of the title of the book.)

It was that very venue that led to Lessons from the Porch at Kenley Cove.  At first I had a few printed by a printer for gifts for family and friends.  The week I went to the post office TEN times, the decision was made to seek out a publisher.  The book is now out, the marketing has begun, and my primary prayer is that people will be encouraged by the words between its covers.

Come on over and join me for a big old glass of sweet tea.  We’ll sit on the porch and talk a while!

WestBow Press authors who’d like to share a 350-600 word experience related to the self-publishing of their books, are invited to do so by sending a message through our Facebook page at www.facebook.com/WestBowPress, by tweeting us @westbowpress, or by emailing kgray@ westbowpress.com.  We may not be able to use every story, but we will read and consider them. WestBow Press reserves the right to edit stories for content, grammar and punctuation accuracy; as well as for space.

 

 

 


Pete Nikolai: Maximizing Results from Writer’s Conferences & Events

Pete Nikolai, publisher of WestBow Press and director of publishing services for Harper Collins Christian Publishing, is a frequent attendee and presenter at industry events. Last month Nikolai spoke at the Orange County Christian Writers Conference and, in June, he will present at the Southern Christian Writers Conference.

Pete Nikolai has nearly 25 years of experience in many facets of publishing.

Pete Nikolai has nearly 25 years of experience in many facets of publishing.

Nikolai looks forward to these gatherings as “they provide opportunities to reconnect with colleagues and meet authors who have self-published with WestBow or are considering doing so.” It also gives him the opportunity to pick up tips from authors about how they are maximizing the results from these events.

In this entry, which Nikolai originally published on his “Publish Your Book” blog on April 13, 2015, Nikolai offers feedback he’s received from authors in his years of networking at industry events.

Pete Nikolai: “Maximizing Results from Writers Conferences and Events” >>

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